Finding out that “the love of your life” has been cheating on you and lying to you about it for a long time is a very tough situation. Most of the people don’t know what to do or how to act in such a situation.
Lots of emotions like sadness, fear, anger, confusion, and depression overshadow the thinking capability of victims of such incidents, and they end up ruining their entire life. Some of them also commit suicide to get rid of all the pain.
If you or someone around you is going through the same phase, then you should know how to deal with cheating in the right way. Here is what you should do in this situation:
Stay Calm:
We know that staying calm in such a situation isn’t an easy task. But, this is the only option you have to solve the things with your spouse. Yelling on him/her, over-reacting or taking big decisions in haste will only make things worse between you two. Try to confront your partner about this in a calm way. Listen to his/her side of the story before giving any final verdict.
Gather Information:
If you have heard about this cheating from a third person, then it’s your duty to find out the reality on your own before considering your spouse a culprit. Check the phone, laptop, credit card statements and other personal things of your spouse. It will help you in finding out who is that person with whom he/she is cheating on you or since when they are seeing each other etc. Having solid evidence is very crucial before accusing your partner.
Confront your Spouse:
Avoiding the situation or thinking like that it never happened won’t solve anything. You can’t escape your pain so; the only way is to face it. Discuss it with your spouse by presenting the evidence you have found and ask for an explanation. It will lead to two things: either he/she will clearly deny it, or he/she will blame you for this. Knowing what your spouse feels will clear the picture.
Have your Space:
Such scars take time to heal, and the hasty decisions are always dangerous for us. So, after knowing the exact truth, you should have your time and space. Cut-off entirely from your spouse and contemplate on the matter. Think about your relationship and the depth of the extramarital affair your spouse have. Stay away from his/her until you feel like doing so.
Prioritise Yourself:
Some people forgive their unfaithful partners just because of societal pressure and for their kids. But, you should not give your spouse another chance if you are not feeling to do so. You should value your self-worth and take a decision which is right for you. Divorce is not an ideal situation, but it is much better than compromising and living in a toxic relationship for your remaining life. So, you should take the decision while keeping yourself in the center; no matter how harsh it is.
