In today’s rushing life, we often find it difficult to bond with our growing daughters in the most meaningful manner. At this age of adolescence, she might be busy with her own life, with her gadgets, her friends or her study assignments. She may also find it a little challenging to talk to you and share her girlhood at times. Let’s face it, and certain bonds do not happen naturally; we need to work on them because she needs a friend, a guide at home who can help her fly through life with ease.
Hence you need to take out time amidst your chores, profession, family etc. And invest in this precious relationship with your daughter. You being an adult, can understand and take appropriate steps accordingly to nurture the bond. To water it and let it grow into a full blooming tree.
Here are a few things that you may like to do to enhance your bond with your daughter:
Scheduling time
Mark suitable time in your schedule that you can spend with your daughter without any stress from work or anything else. Pick a day of the week that you think is relatively free for both of you, like sundays or saturday evenings. Make sure you dedicate all this time to her and only her without any distractions. If you drive, you can take her for a pleasant drive. Summers are approaching and so are vacations from schools. This is the best time to start with this step.
Find out her interests
Make time to find out about your girl’s likes, dislikes, hobbies and interests. If you know them, you will be able to suggest things that can help you two to enhance the bond. Look into the things she keeps herself busy with. If she loves to read, try finding out what she loves to read and suggest books accordingly, still better, give her some good books. If she is into tv, see what kind of programmes interest her, suggest some good tv viewing and sit down to watch her favourite shows with her, only if she likes the idea and does not take it as prying. A liking for a particular kind of sport can help you to organise for a playtime with her. If she is a dessert lover, you can consider assorted dessert gift packs. Just order cake online coimbatore, and give her a creative cake as a gift.
Go shopping together
Take her out for some girlie shopping. Give her the liberty to choose apparels, shoes or accessories for herself.
Cook a recipe together
Kitchen is the best place to nurture relationships. Take out time to cook an interesting recipe that she would love to serve and eat too. Guide her through the process while she takes the charge. Let her make a mess. Encourage her and make her feel proud of her creation. Praise what she cooked.
Help her with her assignments
If you are academically proficient to do so, help her with her school assignments, while making it a fun task rather than a boring routine. Let her sail through these mundane hours (as we often find them as) with a smile and utmost ease.
Go for a movie together
If your daughter likes to go out for movies, book a show for just you two and enjoy the movie time together. Discuss the movie with her on the way back. Ask her about her favourite parts of the movie. This will help you to know her psychological bends. Encourage her to give a fair review of the movie, the way she interprets it.
Invite her friends for a meal
Make sure to invite your daughter’s close friends for a get-together at home. Let them spend leisure time together while you pamper them with some home-cooked meals. Do not be too much among them while they do their stuff, talk and giggle. Just let them be on their own after you have served. See a big smile on your daughters face; the happiness that she would feel for the way you treated her friends.
Most importantly, listen
Communication is a 2 way bridge. Just the way she listens to you, you must listen to her too! If you do not, she will think it’s okay to not pay attention. Hence it is a must that you lend a compassionate ear whenever she comes to you with her teenage issues or any other fun happenings during her day. To show that you are listening, ask her questions that you have.
Last but not the least, have faith in your girl, display complete trust in her. Make her feel loved, respected and appreciated and watch her grow into a healthy, happy, responsible and beautiful woman.
